Most custodial and non-custodial parents make the mistake of using child support and visitation as their carrot-and-stick policy. When a non-custodial parent(NCP) is unable to have child access, that parent usually thinks it is alright to default in the payment of child support as a consequence of the refusal to allow visitation.
On the other hand, the custodial parent who finds it difficult to obtain regular child support feels that it is her right to refuse access to the child because of the lack of payment. Parents who engage in such manipulative measures fail to see that in refusing visitation or in withholding child support, it is not the other parent that is being punished, but the innocent child who is thrust into the warpath of both parents.
Legally, the right to visitation and the duty to pay child support are distinct and separate. This means only one thing: if the other parent refuses visitation, your recourse is not to suspend child support payment, but to enforce your visitation order or agreement in court via a contempt motion. Conversely, a mother who has not been regularly receiving the child support payment from the errant parent cannot legally prevent the deadbeat dad from seeing his child by that reason alone. Child support payment is not a rental fee for the time spent with the child. Visitation is the right of the child to bond with the other parent, and it has nothing to do with child support. The appropriate remedy of the mother is to allow access to the child, but to go back to court for the violation of the support agreement.